An Eye-opening Life Lessons Story About Love and Marriage!

An Insightful Series of Life Lessons That My Life Provided As I Lived Understanding Its Psychology and Philosophy Improving My Mental Health in The Process.

Jul 06, 2026

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An Eye-opening Life Lessons Story About Love and Marriage: Marriage As A Tradition Is The Enemy of Uniqueness in Relationship

Marriage is a tradition in all the cultures over the world that got established in each one of them separately. This happened when there was no direct or indirect communication owing to large geographical distances among them.

Does it mean that all human tribes through their separate journeys on the paths of evolution thought alike? Does it also mean that marriage as a sociocultural institution was a part of natural sociocultural evolution worldwide? We cannot take it for granted and need looking deeper into what established it as a global lifestyle.

Anyway, I personally could never accept it as a natural bent of my cultural orientation as an individual since childhood. On turning an adult, I started having affairs with females around. But having even a deep emotional affair with one never stopped me from getting attracted to others too. I surveyed many people including both genders who in their most intimately expressive moments admitted multiple attractions affecting their minds. It was another thing that the majority shrugged them off ‘nipping the evil in the bud’. But the fact was that attractions did instinctively arise before they were morally shrugged off.

An Eye-opening Life Lessons Story About Love and Marriage: An Affair Develops

Anyway, in 1980 at age 29, I was directing a theatrical production in a satellite town of Delhi. It happened so that an affair developed between the heroine of the production and me during its rehearsals. It went on fine until her parents got to know about it who raised a huge objection to it. We ignored their resistance and kept meeting each other stealthily. We weren’t very keen on marrying each other and were happy with our affair going strong.

After around a year, we made a program to visit my hometown in the Himalayas for a few days together. For this, we needed to inform her parents. We went to them and informed them about our program about leaving for the trip the next day.

On hearing what we had in mind, they immediately got alarmed. They had never known our relationship had gone so strong by then. Going out of station together as two opposite sexed friends like this was unimaginable to their cultural mindset. They realized things had gone out of their hands by then. Their minds raced fast to mend the situation so that it would become acceptable to them.

An Eye-opening Life Lessons Story About Love and Marriage: Her Parents Object

“We cannot allow her to go out of station with a stranger like that,” said her father.

“But our purpose is not to seek your permission, we have rather come here to inform you about our trip. Moreover, I am not even a stranger to her anymore,” I registered my objections to what he said.

“You said you people are going to your hometown. Won’t your parents have any objection in your coming along with a girl unknown to them?” said her mother.

“I don’t think they will,” said I in a matter-of-fact voice.

“Maybe because you are a boy and not a girl,” came her father’s logic, “or maybe we aren’t so modern as your parents might be.”

“And if you are bent upon going out like this together, we need to get you married before that. Get married at 8 in the morning tomorrow before you leave,” said her mother this time.

I looked toward my friend who gave me a silent nod for her parents’ proposal. Even I didn’t have any qualms regarding getting married or not. In fact, it didn’t make any difference to us. At least that was what we felt.

“We have no problem in getting married if it gives you peace of mind,” I said finally. It was 12 o’ clock at midnight that time.

We decided that we would go for a simple traditional marriage at 8 in the morning. After that I left for home to have a sleep before our marriage.

An Eye-opening Life Lessons Story About Love and Marriage: We Get Married

At 7:30, my friend came to wake me up and we hurriedly left for the venue of the wedding. There were around 15 people who had come along from their side. From my side, I was the only person present. All the rituals got performed within an hour and we were conferred the status of wife and husband. There was a certificate provided as a proof of marriage that her parents carefully kept with them.

We were free to go to my hometown now. I went to the telegraph office and sent a telegram to my mother saying, “Got married.”

Within a couple of hours before we left, my mother’s reply telegram arrived saying, “Congratulations! Visit home.”

And we boarded the bus headed towards my hometown together. As we occupied our seats, we relaxed ourselves after a hectic schedule of the last few hours.

An Eye-opening Life Lessons Story About Love and Marriage: I Try to Keep Our Marriage Unique

We had a unique relationship that her parents had tried to turn into a traditional one. But we were resolved for it not to turn into a run of the mill kind relationship.

I said, “What do you think we should do to keep our new traditional status still unique?”

“You suggest,” she threw the ball back into my court.

“What if we don’t stay under one roof? I suppose that may keep it very unique and fresh throughout our life,” I suggested.

“That’s okay but it will hurt my parents who may think we have ditched them,” she rejected my proposal.

“But think how fresh it will keep our relationship. No expectations, no protocols, no over-familiarity and hence no contempt! We will meet each other only when we passionately feel like doing so. And that too if the other one wants so as well,” I enumerated the benefits.

“But it may land us up in social trouble. People may start thinking we have relationship problems. Rumors spread like wildfire,” she expressed her apprehensions.

“Why to bother about others? I have seen people living together and dragging relationship even when they have gone sick of seeing each other’s face. It’s a fact that too much familiarity breeds contempt. Living together all 24 hours brings them a bit too close to each other. We need to keep a minimum gap to keep our romance alive. I suppose you know it very well,” I put my point across.

“I do,” she seemed to agree with me.

“Then?” I needed listening to her subjective reaction.

“But it’s scary,” I could see her visualizing living alone from her face as she said these words.

“Every adventure scares the adventurer, but that’s what makes it worth doing it,” I commented.

“But should we give each other this much of freedom?” she was sounding anxious.

An Eye-opening Life Lessons Story About Love and Marriage: Lover Turns into Wife in Her Spirit

I immediately came to assess that the mere ritual of a traditional marriage had turned my lover into a wife. A wife who had started putting safety first and freedom or romance afterwards as something secondary! The mere ritual of a traditional marriage had killed the entire spirit of adventure that she was always full of.

I immediately understood we had committed a blunder, but the sad part was we had already done so. And once we had committed it, we needed to go along with all the commitments made to each other lifelong.

And we did so. We are living ‘happily’ with each other to date. It was only that the spirits of uniqueness, adventure, freedom and romance took a little dip. Everything else went fine.

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